Listen as Diane Poole Heller shares how to practice secure connection, one moment, and one relationship, at a time.

In this episode of “Not Your Ordinary Parts,” Dr. Diane Poole Heller shares how trauma and attachment wounds shape connection—and how healing unfolds, gently and slowly.

Emotional shutdown can be reinforced by well-meaning but misattuned communication. Learn five patterns that deepen disconnection—and how to support partners on both sides of the dynamic.

Discover how five core fears sit at the root of anxiety. This framework offers practical tools for therapists to move beyond symptom relief into deeper healing.

In this podcast interview, Dr. Diane Poole Heller explores the deeper roots of anger and how parents can transform stress and reactivity into moments of connection, repair, and resilience.

Learn how Gazespotting, a therapeutic technique using natural eye movements, helps clients process emotions, manage overwhelm, and make real progress in healing.

Brainspotting is an innovative therapy technique that connects eye position with emotional experiences, providing a powerful way to process and release deep-rooted emotional distress.

The threat response sequence prepares the body for potential danger. Learn how to understand and manage your threat response with this helpful infographic.

In this short video, Dr. Diane Poole Heller explains how to address complex trauma in therapy by focusing on smaller, manageable “little t” traumas first to help clients regulate.

Discover how attachment styles shape relationships from birth. Learn why understanding your attachment style is crucial for building strong, nurturing connections throughout life.

Treating trauma isn’t easy and revisiting traumatic memories or experiences can be difficult territory. How can you discuss and explore your client’s trauma without causing distress?

Learn 5 effective techniques to alleviate stress and anxiety. Discover how mindful breathing, muscle relaxation, and more can bring calm to your life.

While healthy shame can help us learn and grow, toxic shame has the opposite effect. It goes far beyond the feeling that we’ve disappointed someone.

In this interview, Dr. Diane Poole Heller joins Forrest & Rick Hanson to discuss the profound effect that our attachment style can have on our adult relationships.