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FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ

Attachment Styles Questionnaire

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How to take the quiz

When you read through the statements, focus on how you feel now, or how you felt in the past, in one significant relationship. This does not need to be a romantic relationship. Choose someone with whom you feel, or have felt, the most connection.

  1. Think of one significant relationship, such as a partner, parent, or close friend.
  2. Answer based on how you generally feel now, or how you felt in the past.
  3. Use the 5‑point scale from Strongly Disagree to Strongly Agree.
  • 40 Questions
  • About 5-8 minutes
  • Personal Reflection
  • This assessment is meant to be a personal exploration into your attachment style and is not intended to be used as a diagnostic tool.
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Attachment Styles Questionnaire
    I can keep secrets, protect the other person’s privacy and respect their boundaries.
    I sometimes have substantial memory blocks, where I can’t remember a period of time or significant events.
    I often find myself yearning for someone who is unavailable to me.
    I have a hard time remembering my childhood or discussing feelings related to the past. And when I try to do so, I pull away, get confused or become detached.
    When I reach a certain level of intimacy with another person, I sometimes experience unexplained fear.
    I find eye contact uncomfortable and/or particularly difficult to maintain.
    It is difficult for me to say NO or to set realistic boundaries.
    It’s easy for me to be affectionate with people I care for.
    I often find it difficult to relax with another person when I’m in a close relationship.
    I find myself struggling to feel safe in a relationship, even when a big part of me knows the other person is trustworthy.

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